I’m married-charming and good-looking [so I'm told] and am not looking to run off w/anyone. But I love to laugh, am very funny, love playful flirting over drinks and go nuts over Business dressed women, and, if the timing was right, I would welcome a bj, hj and/or to return the gesture w/ fabulous O’s – given in a similar manner. [Does anyone else related to this?]

My problem is, I’m in I.T. And in my position, I don’t interact face to face w/our lawyers,staff, etc. I don’t have opportunities to ‘make work friends’ to hang out with. As far making friends within our I.T. dept, well, let’s just say they’re typical I.T. people and not really my crowd.

I can tell when I help people over the phone who the cuties are and who the biotches are-but phone time does not allow for anytime of socializing. I have had some say that they’ve looked me up in the directory so they could make sure I follow through with their computer need and so forth-but never any more than that.

I am envious of seeing ‘groups of friends’ going out for lunch and drinks. I eat alone (because of my shift), I leave the building alone. I thrive on being around people–is anyone else like this?

With that being said (and I’m slightly embarrassed about having said that). I could totally relate to each aspect of this story. Input welcome.

All those brains, and yet every aspect of your existence is a meaningless wasteland. Endless hours at a soul-killing job producing nothing of value, a barren alcohol-shrouded social life, no creative outlets except humiliating yourself on this blog. My heart goes out to you.

I wonder what it would take for you to give yourself permission to actually be alive, and then pursue whatever that means. Here’s hoping you find out some day.

I will also have you know that I have all the male attention I need. It is just that I do NOT let any man eat my cookies.